This rule also applies to all the other relations we are in, for example our siblings, teachers, peers and relatives. It shows them that we really do care about the way they toil to help us. When we say “Thank you”, it shows appreciation, respect and love. When we say “Please”, it shows respect and consideration for our parents’ thoughts and feelings.

Instead of starting a sentence with “I want”, I feel much better if they say “Please” and “Thank you” after I have catered to their need”. Our attitude when we want something can either make them happy or frustrate them! We must understand that there is a very thin line between a demand and a request, but often we fail to feel the difference.Ī father of three says, “I do not like being taken for granted by my children, although I know very well that of all people in the world, they will turn to me for their requirements. At times, however unintentionally, we fail to acknowledge their efforts. They strive hard to keep us happy, comfortable and content, but they also expect a polite and grateful attitude from us in return. Our parents are always out there to cater to our requirements. Which of the above two scenarios would make your mother feel more appreciated and happy? We know that it is the duty of our parents to fulfil our needs, whether they are small or big. Please can I have a snack?”Īfter finishing what your mother has served you, you take your plate to the kitchen sink (or better still, wash it), walk up to your mother and with a hug say, “Thank you mummy, the sandwich was delicious.” Then you say politely, “I am sorry to disturb you mummy, but I am feeling hungry. You walk into the kitchen and quietly watch mummy as she seems busy. Now look at the same situation with a better approach. You devour your snack in front of the television and declare, “I am going to do my homework” and head to your room, leaving behind your empty plate and glass on the lounge table. Mummy gives you a tired look, but still she quickly fixes a sandwich for you and serves it to you with a glass of milk. YOU come rushing into the kitchen where mummy is busy preparing dinner and announce, “I am feeling hungry and want something to eat!” ‘Sorry’, ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ are magic words that make a person feel important, pacify tempers, strengthen bonds and at times mend strained relationships

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